Going right along....

Tonight I am going to touch on a subject the my friend Liz touched on yesterday in her blog. Liz has a very valid point when it comes to marriage. If any of you follow the entertainment news (which most of you know is a guilty pleasure of mine even though 75% of the time it's false) you will have noticed a family named Jon & Kate Gosselin. They are a couple that have been married for 10 years and have 8 beautiful kids. Kate suffered from PCOS (something I am familiar with) and they used fertility meds to conceive. Well the first time they had twins, the second time they had sextuplets. Anyhoo, they have filed for divorce after months of turmoil. It breaks my heart to see any couple file for divorce, especially when kids are involved. Now don't get me wrong, you can't raise a child in a home that isn't happy, but kids are always the most effected for the longest time when parents divorce. It doesn't matter how old or young they are. What really bothers me is how easy it is to get divorced today. I mean couples can decide with a course of a week to divorce, file papers the next week and then get the final draft to be signed within a few weeks later. When you have committed yourself forever until death do you part to someone how can you make that big of a decision in such a little amount of time?

I am fortunate. I have been in a relationship with someone I love with all of my being. Matt and I have been together for almost 12 years now and married for 8. With in those 12 years, we have been through a lot...passing of family, deployments, heartaches, years of fertility issues and anything else that life has thrown our way. It hasn't been 12 years of all happiness. What most people don't understand is when you are married there are going to be times where you feel like things are going bad or you going to feel like it is never going to get better. That is when you need to lean on your spouse and work through whatever the issue is. Society has made it so easy to just move on. The day you got married you pledged to your spouse for better or worse. Worse is going to happen. It is what you decide to do, the choices you decide to make, whether it is going to stay "worse" or get better. At the end of the day when you go to bed at night and your spouse is laying next to you, imagine them not being there day after day and think about how that makes you feel. I know I can't imagine my life without Matt in it. He is the man I loved yesterday, love today, and will love all the tomorrows I am allowed. I thank God everyday that I have him and Gracie in my life. Life isn't always easy, life is going to through wrenches, curve balls, and anything else to keep it interesting. As long as you don't ignore those curve balls and work through them, you and your spouse will make it through.

In light of divorce being so common, I felt that I needed to share my thoughts. It hurts to watch people close to you go through things that you know they may not be able to come out of. I have friends that have been so close to divorce, one of them almost called a lawyer. I am so thankful for them that they were able to work through it. Now will they have more issues in the future, sure they will. But each situation is going to make you stronger, it is going to make your marriage stronger, and both of you will become better people and parents in the end.

Ok, I have babbled on enough for tonight! :) Be sure to kiss your spouse and let them know how much you appreciate them. In the hustle and bustle of every day life, little things often go with out being said. Don't let it become to late...let them know you love them.

This picture was taken the day after our lives changed forever. After suffering from infertility for about 4 years we found out that we were pregnant. Matt and I have never been so scared and excited. I am so thankful I get so spend everyday with him, enjoying being parents and experiencing life with him. I love you Matthew!